True Friendship Is Hard to Find


The older I get, the more I see how rare real friendship actually is. Not the type where people check in here and there, or show up when it’s convenient, or only stay close as long as they feel comfortable. I mean the kind of friendship that feels steady… the kind that feels safe… the kind where you don’t have to wonder if someone is secretly competing with you or comparing their life to yours.

We live in a time where so many connections are surface-level. People will smile with you but feel something different underneath. People will say they’re happy for you, but you can sense when someone doesn’t truly mean it. You can feel it when someone is only close enough to observe your life, but not invested enough to support it.

And that’s why, when God gives you a real friend, someone who genuinely cares about your progress, someone who encourages you, someone who doesn’t shrink back when God blesses you,  those friendships are worth holding close. A real friend doesn’t feel threatened by your calling. They don’t bring silent competition into the relationship. They don’t watch your life with jealousy hiding behind their eyes. They see your growth, and they’re actually glad for you. They want good things for you. They want to see you become everything God created you to be.

When I think about what true friendship looks like, I think about Jonathan and David. Their relationship was pure. Jonathan knew who David was called to be, and instead of pulling away or feeling overshadowed, he chose loyalty. He chose love. He chose to protect David even when it cost him something. He didn’t treat David like a threat. He treated him like a brother. That kind of friendship is rare, and when you find it, it’s worth honoring and protecting.

Not everyone in your life is going to love you like that. Not everyone is going to stand beside you that way. And that’s okay. Because God knows exactly who belongs in your life, and He knows who is capable of walking with you without competing with you.

So when God sends the right ones , the ones who don’t compare, who don’t compete, who don’t question your blessings, who don’t disappear when life gets real, cherish them. Friendship like that is not common anymore. But it’s real. And when it comes from God, it’s one of the most beautiful gifts a person can have.

Dr. Christina Asare

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